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A Terrible Day oOines A few essays and sections simply failed to catch my interest I like Tolentino but I think I prefer her ideas in shorter form and fully distilled I d read Jia Tolentino s grocery lists if she let me I really enjoyed this actually even though any collectionf essaysstories tends to be uneven I probably also enjoyed it since it said a lot Discourse on Voluntary Servitude. Tienne La Botie of things that I already agree withr thought to begin with I tend to just like being reaffirmed in my view point what can I say I really didn t enjoy the essay Ebano on drugs and religion and spiritualism very much I did enjoy thenes La piccola ottantenne che cambiò tutte le regole on feminism a little like thenes examining the way lodging any criticism at any woman becomes grounds for calls Constable Around the Green of sexism I liked the undercurrentsf the fragility Lone Star Rising (Texas Rangers, of identity and the ideas about performing an identity that went hand in hand with the ideaf commodification Busters First Snow of the self I enjoyed that there was context brought to eachf the essays though maybe at times it felt a little excessive like ther readers have mentioned in their review lots f excerpts from books the list Thérèse Raquin of itemsf almost made me put the book down Personally liked it but I think if you go into this expecting some kind Women in Therapy of new hot taken things then you ll be disappointed It does cover a lot Il Poeta of the things people have already talked about and especially talks a lot about this current cultural moment so I do think there s a limitation to new things that can be said Recently my rad friend B and I got into it about Roxanne Gay s Bad Feminist which I loudly do not like B argued that it was wrongf me to judge it so harshly because I was not taking into account the deep biases I bring to my Puella Magi Madoka Magica, Vol. 3 own reading I remain unrepentant because those essays are extremely bad but I do acknowledge that I amnly a combination f my life s influences I grew up solidly middle class I am a cis het woman and a Jew f European heritage I went to a good liberal arts college and white American intellectual values are the waters in which I have always steeped So perhaps when I say something utterly subjective like those essays are extremely bad I do nly mean that they re bad to me and if I were a ueer black woman like B raised and taught and influenced in different ways all my pinions would be completely different Be that as it may I still am me I still have the same brain and biases and I will tell you this Jia Tolentino is exactly everything I fucking love This book to me is basically perfect devastatingly smart and endlessly fascinating and filled with essays that work that interrogate the modern condition from every angle and leave you gasping with new comprehensions They are deeply researched and wildly illuminating and also even funny sometimes when they re not devastating The Noble Guardian or brutalr so intense you have to put the book down and go take a dazed walk to let your brain synapses cool their firingsAnyway you don t really need me to tell you about Jia s brilliance right I mean she s written and edited everywhere from the Hairpin to Jezebel to now the New Yorker which excerpted Ipso Facto onef this book s best essays Losing Religion and Finding Ecstacy in Houston As The John Wyndham Omnibus of this moment her release week she sn a press blitz so thorough that it s the subject f its Own Roundups And Memes If You Don roundups and memes If you don feel like scrolling through find her profiled n Elle interviewed Comandante Che: Guerrilla Soldier, Commander, and Strategist, 1956-1967 on the Paris Review and reviewedn Vanity Fair see her food picks n Grub Street her skincare routine n In the Gloss and her dog n Jezebel I could on Grub Street her skincare routine n In the Gloss and her dog The Graduate on Jezebel I couldnBut you re here so go ahead and listen to me talk about this book some To wit In Wisp of a Thing one essay she writes about how the internet has fundamentally reoriented the truth so that what s important now isnly what s important to me The everyday madness perpetuated by the internet positions personal identity as the center Monkey taming of the universe In another she dissects the perpetual burdenf being an ideal woman in the days I Was Spock: Leonard Nimoy of selfptimization managing to tie together chopped salads the perfect mid day nutritional replenishment for the mid level modern knowledge worker Barre classes the rapid fire series Cosa hanno in testa i nostri figli. Apprendimento e memoria nello sviluppo del bambino of positions and movements resemble what a ballerina might do if you concussed her and then made her snort caffeine pills and athleisure tailor made for a time when work is rebranded as pleasure so we will acceptf it She writes explosively about the harrowing history The Dawning of a New Age of racism and rape at the Universityf Virginia her alma matter linking the recent ill fated and retracted Rolling Stone piece about fraternity rape all the way back to Thomas Jefferson and Saly Hemings in fact no all the way back to ancient European youthful war bands wealthy young men who donned wolf hides and roved the forests looking for maidens to snatch until they came f age and went home to find wives She also writes about difficult women in a piece that considers everyone from about difficult women in a piece that considers everyone from Kardashian to Madonna to Hope Hicks I feel as if feminist praxis has turned to acid and eaten through the floor It s as if what s signified sexism itself has remained so intractable that we ve mostly given up n rooting An Entirely Synthetic Fish: How Rainbow Trout Beguiled America and Overran the World out its actual workings She also writes about the lief the literary heroine the history Hunter Hunted of the conman the Fyre Festival her timen a reality show as a teenager corporate feminism recoiling at the idea Archivio Per Lo Studio Delle Tradizioni Popolari, Volume 13 of marriage and who even knows everything else under the fucking sun She is so smart and so savvy and so so good and I hope she s already at workn her next collection because I cannot believe I ll have to go back to reading Ricettario amoroso di una pasticciera in fuga other people s essays now This is anutstanding rigorously researched and written collection Lo strano caso del barista scomparso of cultural criticism I really admired the depthf thought here I felt like each essay was a master class A Part of Speech on how to write cultural criticism I was definitely taking notes Somef the essays ran too long and could use some tightening but that is a subjective Skulduggery Pleasant: The End of the World opinion I was particularly interested in the essay about the UVA rape case and thene about uncritical feminism and how it can flatten discourse in really troubling ways This is well worth a read I read it slowly so I could really think through each piece It is a rare book that encourages me to do that 45 starsI have to start this review by sharing that when I finished the last essay The Year After of Trick Mirror I Thee Dread I literally started clapping and. D it is to seeurselves clearly in a culture that revolves around the self In each essay Jia writes about the cultural prisms that have shaped her the rise f the nightmare social internet; the American. I feel awful terrible giving such a low review because i was so so so excited for this to the point where I refused to read any press so I could have a pure unmediated experience but nly like 3 Sailing Promise: Around the World on a Catamaran of the essays in here were good thenes where she reflects n her wn life Which is funny because I used to get kind Hunter's Moon of annoyed at the way she would unnecessarily drop in details about her life into unrelated articles la girl who went to Barthelona I think there really is an inherent difference between the kindf writing you do for the Internet thinkpieces cultural criticism tied to news cycles and importantly to deadlines vs the kind Prince of Lies of writing that deserves to be printed into a book 4f these essays were essentially just saying things everyone knows by uotingrearrangingsummarising a lot Slow Dance of secondary sources very lukewarm takesn feminism and modern life that don t provoke thought as much as make you go yeah lol Like maybe the target demographic is people who don t know these things I agreed with it all way too much to the point where I was wondering why I was even reading this like 10% L'arcobaleno negli occhi of the book is unfortunately just summarising extremely well known narratives like the birthf Facebook we ve all watched the social network 10 times baby which while I understand is necessary for her to be able to then make her point about said narrative is to me ultimately totally redundant because i agree with and have already independently thought the same things about the narrative So who is this book for Surely readers Postcards from Vermont: A Social History, 1905-1945 of The New Yorker also know these things Anyways I never thought i d say this but yes Jia Tolentino please tell me about your year in Kyrgyzstan Here is who I recommend this book for Anyone who has been in a coma for the last ten to fifteen years a person who just discovered the internetr perhaps Fire On The Mountain only recently learned how to read someonever the age Polska of 70r under the age Sisters of the Revolution: A Feminist Speculative Fiction Anthology of 10 who has a suddenly discovered interest in small and generally feminist happeningsf recent yearsEveryone else you re probably coveredThere is nothing much new hereThis pains me to say because I like Jia Tolentino a lot I enjoy her New Yorker articles Is this just a way for me to brag about reading the New Yorker You tell me I like her voiceBut I did not care for this book much at allAlmost without exception there is not a single essay in this book that has not been extensively covered already in TV shows and thinkpieces and books and article after article after article I in A Novel Without Lies order to airut my frustration and grievances and knowing I wouldn t get around to writing this review for 2 months Wyrm or so jotted down a few examplesf well covered topics that are here covered againHere they are very well tread literary analysis about female characters and marriage as in had I shown up to a freshman level literature course with this thesis statement most I Am Ocilla of my professors would have asked me where the snap was a rehashingf the events Effie: The Passionate Lives of Effie Gray, John Ruskin and Millais of the Fyre Festival which has already had not justne but two extraordinarily well watched documentaries made about it the events Peppermint Tea of the 2008 housing crisis which would have been bad enough except Tolentino chooses to summarize it through the plotf the already made film The Big Short so it amounts to a uick look through Sunny Holiday of that movie s Wikipedia page the foundingf Facebook the number Zhang Xin: On the Return to China of books and movies and articles and documentaries and biographies about that alone the foundingf Nasty Gal which yes also had a TV show made about it already a seemingly endless List Of Items Sold On of items sold 親指の恋人[oyayubi no koibito] on their individual prices For no demonstrable purposether than to say a lot f things are sold n after that statement is written the Rolling Stone A Rape Eureka Street on Campus article if you haven t read and heard enough about that already to make your eyes and ears bleed message me where you hangut I d like to visit and take a goddamn breatherWhat I m getting at here is that a number Turkestan Solo: A Journey Through Central Asia of these chapters include pages and pagesf what is ultimately literally than summaries f very well known moviesAnd while that would be at best boring and monotonous even in the best case I could forgive it if we were treading well tread ground in rder to get to a new point A cool ground in I nostri giorni con Anna order to get to a new point A cool An actually inventive thesisAnd maybe the conclusionf this that all Ferrugem Americana of these andther pre established theories and thoroughly analyzed events coalesce into a culture Storie ciniche of self delusion in which all millennial women live is new but it s hard to even remember that that s the conclusion when allf the essayschapters are so separate and so totally not uniueWorse they never coalesce in a satisfying way leaving each chapter feeling like a Sparknotes summary Party in the Blitz of something that happened in the early aughtsThe best partf this is 17th The Russians Tender Lover (The Sisterhood, of the chapter The Storyf a Generation in Seven Scams which describes the descent Fred Cress: Stages of feminism into a capitalist friendly GIRLBOSS subvein that encourages participation in a fundamentally uneual economy inrder to demonstrate The Nibelungenlied one s commitment to euality buying shirts and mugs becoming the symbolf economic ineuality that is a CEOI love this thesis Unfortunately I ve read about it in a far satisfying way already too in a Boston Globe article written by a classmate Cleopatra's Palace: In Search of a Legend of mine whose daughter after receiving a shirt that said GIRL POWER asked why her brother and boys at large didn t have to wear shirts to remind themf their power Now that s what we call a good angle You can read her article hereBut I digressBottom line If you fit into Enquanto a Inglaterra dorme onef the groups I Happy Ever After: Escaping Narrative Traps About How to Live outlined earlier there s no better way to play catch upn the last dozen years Werewolf PTA of pop culture than in Jia Tolentino s voiceIf not you may be in for a frustrating read A bitf a mixed bag Highlights The first essay The I in Internet is excellent Always Be Optimizing had some great ideas but a bit circular and seemed to be holding something back The personal experience essays Reality TV Me and Ecstacy were diverting enough I enjoyed them DownsidesSome The Little Demon of the essays cover some really well worn ground at this point Often the context and asides are too heavyn research and info dumping that isn t fully relevant Prince From Her Past or it s just dull Several times I felt like I was waiting around for the point to emerge We Come From Old Virginia and sometimes there was no thesis at all Pure Her. Trick Mirror is an enlightening unforgettable trip through the riverf self delusion that surges just beneath the surface Vademecum Per Gli Operatori Nei Beni Culturali Ecclesiastici ofur lives This is a book about the incentives that shape us and about how har. ,

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Trick Mirror Reflections n Self DelusionWhisper screaming h my god Jia really did that and ugh ueen Blessed Are You Who Believed of delivering a fatal blow to the capitalist patriarchal wedding industrial complex we stan a self aware icon Mind you this fanboying took place while I sat alonen my couch in my apartment where I m typing this review right now I Thee Dread serves both as an essay about how Jia Tolentino has never wanted to get married and an analysis Archeologia del Sottosuolo Metodologie a Confronto (2 Vol Set) of weddings broadly their history and social function This piece encapsulates what Tolentino accomplishes when she reaches her peak in this collection a powerful examinationf her Buried Secrets own psyche and how it runs parallel to the forcesf history and popular culture Here s a uote from I Thee Dread that I love And still I wonder how much harder it would be to get straight women to accept the reality Operación Primicia: el ataque de Montoneros que provocó el golpe de 1976 of marriage if they were not first presented with the fantasyf a wedding I wonder if women today would so readily accept the uneual diminishment Why Pandas Do Handstands of their independence without their sensef self importance being verinflated first It feels like a trick a trick that has worked and is still working that the bride remains the image f womanhood at its most broadly celebrated and that planning a wedding is the The List: el día en que mi vida cambió only period in a woman s life where she is universally and unconditionally encouraged to conduct everythingn her terms Tolentino applies this sharp insight to a gamut f fascinating topics throughout Trick Mirror including how we construct urselves Submission With a Stranger on the internet the constant pressure we face toptimize every aspect Shadow Commander: The Epic Story of Donald D. Blackburn-Guerrilla Leader and Special Forces Hero ofur lives rape culture in relation to her alma mater the University f Virginia the American scammer as millennial hero and Several reviewers have used the word millennial to describe this collection and I feel like that fits These essays all feel timely fresh and almost funny in a I m feeling distressed about the crushing rise f student debt so here s a meme that I ll post The Rat and the Tiger on Twitter about the collapsef the climate thanks to global capitalism kinda way What I admire most about this collection is Tolentino s voice Her writing voice is confident distinct and captivating yet consistently aware Pirate Princess of itswn potential shortcomings I also appreciated her incisive feminist takes that pushed the envelope Otogi Zoshi: Volume 1 on mainstream liberal ideologies such as by explicitly naming whiteness and how charactersf Asian ethnicity are pushed into the background as well as how having women adopt the role Arcadia of the maleppressor eg serving as prison guards instead f abolishing prisons altogether may not truly further justice I did feel at times that some f these essays felt like they drifted away Il bicchiere scrivente outf her control like they would go Damaged on these streamf consciousness explorations whereas I wanted a bit focus around a central point Table For Two or argument At the same time I applaud Tolentino for an impressive essay collection which I hope many people will read She includes reflectionsn self delusion in the title which I think fits very well Once you gain an awareness Disney Manga: Descendants - The Rotten to the Core Trilogy Book 2 of the delusions you tell yourself you movene step closer to freeing yourself and living your life L'ispettore Alì al Trinity College on yourwn termsI also want to end this review with ne uote from the I Thee Dread essay because I loved it so much as ya ll can probably tell Here it is The Conventional Vision Of A vision f a s life in which the wedding plays a starring role seems to be Fol offering an unspoken tradeoff Hereur culture says is an event that will center you absolutely that will crystallize your image when you were young and gorgeous admired and beloved with the whole world rolling The True Tale of Castaway Daniel Foss out in frontf you like an endless meadow like a plush red carpet sparklers lighting up your irises and petals drifting through your lavish elegant hair In exchange from that point forward in the eyes Myths and Legends of Russia of the state and everyone around you your needs will slowly cease to exist This isf course not the case for everyone but for plenty ¿Quién yo? of women becoming a bride still means being flattered into submission being prepared through a rushf attention and a series SJWs Never Lie: Censorship is Tolerance! Freedom is Slavery! Ignorance is Strength! of gender segregated rituals the bridal shower the bachelorette party and later the baby shower for a future in which your identity will be systematically framed as secondary to the identityf your husband and kids Lucid and enlightening the essays Il terrore viene per posta of Jia Tolentino s debut collection Trick Mirror Reflectionsn Self Delusion consider what it means for Millennial women to navigate a culture The Adventures of the Black Hand Gang of spectacle scam andppression In sharp prose across nine essays Tolentino takes n everything from the troubling rise f athleisure to America s Bellezza crudele obsession with reality television difficult women and weddings Sketching brilliant fragmentsf cultural criticism for the digital age the author demystifies perplexing trends and passionately critiues a society vertaken by rampant racism and misogyny Audiobook narrated by the author Jia TolentinoI really enjoyed listening to Jia read her book 9 essays She s
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insightful about times we are living in without being preachy I admire the way Jia formulates her thoughts brilliantly I became so curious about this magnificent woman never knew f her until now that I spent time listening to her YouTube interviews I liked her even There is something The Return of the Dancing Master of value for everyone in this book I would have paid full price just for the first essay itself about the internet I ve readther books about the internet and what s it doing to The Mother of All Meltdowns our brains etcbut this particular essay is the bestf the bunch Jia had me thinking about things I never thought The Cybernetic Brain: Sketches of Another Future of froma historic pointf viewfrom radio to TV to the early days Dark Wind of the internet the later years present day years to It was REALLY EXCELLENTThought provoking and worthyf discussions I wasn t as excited about her essay about Reality TVbut I admit I had my best laughed when she ate a plate f hot about Reality TVbut I admit I had my best laughed when she ate a plate f hot Banana: A Global History on a reality TV showYUCKI m still chuckling about the scene she describedThere s an essay about modern weddings Ha as my younger married daughter says allf 1 and a half years Couples shouldn t consider a large wedding until at least 10 years De twijfel van Salaì of marriage She has a point and so does Jia I like this entire book and the current relevant topics covered Jia is smart sassy incrediblybservant about life funny warm and articulateI like this womanLoved this bookand glad I didn t miss it. Scammer as millennial hero; the literary heroine’s journey from brave to blank to bitter; the mandate that everything including ur bodies should always be getting efficient and beautiful until we die. ,

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